Are you healing… or just putting a plaster over the wound?

I’m deeply honoured — and also reminded why these conversations matter so much.

Because here’s the truth: the wounds of abuse don’t simply vanish. How we respond to them shapes everything.

Some people rush back into relationships, bypassing the pain. They fall into bed with someone new, or distract themselves with wine, shopping, or work (if they can focus). It might bring relief in the moment, but it’s only a plaster over a festering wound.

Others pause. They stop running and begin asking the hard questions:
Why does this keep happening? Why do I keep attracting the same patterns?

Some do both — trying to soothe the ache, while realising they don’t want to repeat the same story again.

But the common thread is this: at some point, they whisper “enough.”

Enough.
A small word that signals a turning point.

That’s where the deeper healing begins.

These wounds make you question who you are. They pull you into behaviours that don’t feel like you. True healing means tending to the places that told you, as a child, you were “too much,” “not enough,” or unworthy of love. It means facing the wounds of abandonment, shame, and betrayal — and saying, enough now.

We believe the journey will be hard and painful. Done correctly, it couldn’t be further from the truth.

Because covering wounds keeps you surviving.
Healing them sets you free.